When is a raft one too many?

Two monks were on a long journey by foot across Tibet. One was a wise old sage, the other, fresh out of the monastery. They'd climbed up and down many mountain ranges, when they were stopped in their tracks by a large river at the bottom of a steep valley.

Since neither one of them knew how to swim, the younger monk wondered aloud how they were going get to the other side. The elder monk noticed bamboo growing alongside the riverbank and vines growing in the trees behind them, and suggested they make a raft out of these, and use it to cross the river.

Taking the better part of a day, they worked non-stop building the raft. By nightfall, they'd navigated across the river. As they pulled the raft on to the riverbank, the wise old monk quickly started moving on.

The young monk, still hanging on to the raft, yelled out “Master, help me carry this raft! We spent all day building it, and we might need it again!” The wise old monk looked back and said “that part of the journey is over, it’s time to let it go.”

Are you considering making an important change in your life?

Looking for more meaning, purpose, and direction? What’s holding you back? Fear of the unknown? A lack of self-confidence? The loss of control?

 

Likely, all the above, and one more thing. The security of the “raft” that got you safely from where you were to where you are. If it worked to get you here, why wouldn’t it work going forward?

The truth is, meaningful change requires letting go of at least one thing that got you from there to here in order to move forward.

When creating change for the better, what do people tend to let go of? Typical "rafts" discarded include:

  • Core beliefs about ourselves and/or others that are false, inaccurate, self-defeating, and/or no longer relevant

  • Self-defeating and approval seeking behaviors

  • A victim's mindset and a survivor's mentality

  • Emotional baggage, including guilt, shame, and fear

  • Excessive control over certain people, places, or things

  • Procrastination

  • Addictive and compulsive behaviors

  • Unhealthy and non-supportive relationships

  • Unfulfilling jobs and/or career tracks

 

Regardless of what the raft has been, it is important to recognize that it has served a useful purpose, until now. It's also important to know that what you let go of will also unlock the key with which to move forward with.

 At Coaching Works, we'll partner up with you so that you can:

  • Gain clarity as to what's been holding you back

  • Create a clear vision of what you want moving forward

  • Develop the right plan to make your vision a reality

  • See yourself in a much more accurate and empowering light

  • Recognize opportunities that may have been hidden or previously overlooked

  • Unlock your potential and make the most out of your gifts, talents, and passion

  • Go the distance, and not go it alone

If you are
  • Highly motivated to create meaningful change
  • Have an open mind to new possibilities and perspectives
  • Are willing to step outside your comfort zone and into your success zone

  • Committed to invest yourself fully in the process

  • Believe in the value of partnership

...then coaching may be the perfect fit

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